WRITING YOUR WEDDING INVITATIONS

Once you have chosen your design you then need to decide on your wording for the invites. The guide below gives you lots of different wording options and will hopefully answer all your questions.





Wedding Invitation

Firstly you will need to determine who is hosting the wedding and thus inviting guests.

Traditionally this was the bride's parents (as they were paying) but these days it can be the couple themselves or both sets of parents.

We have listed various wording options below including wording for divorced parents.


Bride's Parents Hosting
Mr and Mrs (Bride's Parents Name)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter

at (Ceremony Details) on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Bride and Groom's Parents Hosting
Mr and Mrs (Bride's Parents Name)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter

son of Mr and Mrs (Groom's Parents Name)
at (Ceremony Details) on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Bride and Groom and Families Hosting
Together with their families

request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage at (Ceremony Details)
on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Bride and Groom Hosting

request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage at (Ceremony Details)
on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Groom's Parents Hosting
Mr and Mrs (Groom's Parents Name)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of

at (Ceremony Details) on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Divorced Bride's Parents Hosting
(Bride's Mother's Name) (Bride's Father's Name)
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter

at (Ceremony Details) on (Day, Date, Month, Year) at (Time)
and afterwards at (Reception Details)

Choosing how to write your name

Traditionally the first and middle names of the bride are used but not her title. The brides surname is not included if her parents are hosting the wedding, it would only be used if the couple are hosting the wedding themselves.

Traditionally the groom's name would include his title, first name, middle name and surname.

In all cases the Brides name should always be written before the Groom's.

Requesting your guests

There are several phrases to request your guests attend the wedding.

... request the pleasure of...
... request the honour of ...
... would be delighted for you to attend...
Please join us in celebrating the marriage of our daughter
Please join us in celebrating our marriage

Writing the date and time

There are also numerous ways of writing the wedding date and time so please just pick from the following. The first option is the most traditional:

On Saturday, the third of July two thousand and eleven
Saturday, July 3, 2011

2 o'clock
2pm
2.00 p.m

Requesting an RSVP

If you are not including an RSVP make sure you include an RSVP date and address at the bottom of the invitation.

A formal RSVP would be: The favour of a reply is requested before the second of August, 2010

More informal is: RSVP by August 13, 2010 to (address including postcode)

A note on grammar

Generally on invitations, lines do not start with a capital letter unless it is the name of something, similarly lines do not end with commas or full stop (commas are only used in the address and date).

The RSVP date should be at least a month before the wedding allowing you plenty of time to give your final numbers to the caterers and to organise your table plan.

RSVP Card

RSVP Card

Enclosing a RSVP card with your invitation is getting increasingly popular and ensures that you get a speedy response form your guests. It is also a great way to request additional information such as menu choices or music choices for the evening.



Guests Names

You will need to supply a space for your guests to complete their names. This is traditionally at the top of the invite as in our example.

Attendance

You will need to give the guests the option of saying whether can attend. We have listed some popular phrases below:

Will be delighted to attend
Are regretfully unable to attend

Would love to attend
Sorry, we are unable to attend

I am/We are able to attend
I am/We are unable to attend

Dietary Requirements

Caterers will need to know menu choice and dietary requirements in advance and therefore it is useful to add this information to your reply card.

Please let us know if you have any special dietary requirements: ............
Dietary restrictions: ..............
We will be serving X please let us know if you have any special requirements: ..............
Or if you have a choice of dishes ask guests to indicate their choice. Please see the example above.

Reply Date

Please reply by (insert date)
The favour of a reply is requested by (insert date)
The kindness of a response is requested by (insert date)

Other Information

You could ask guests to indicate their favourite party songs to be played that evening. Or if you are arranging transport at the end of the evening or between the ceremony and reception it is a great time to find out how many guests plan to use it. You could also ask guest whether they require babysitting facilities if this is relevant.

Evening Invitation

Evening Invitation

The wording for daytime can just be amended slightly for your evening invitations. Replace 'at the marriage of' with 'to an evening reception to celebrate the marriage of'. Then include an arrival time for example 'at 7pm' or 'from 7pm' or 'for the cake cutting at 7pm'.



Save the Date Card

Save The Date

This is a simple announcement card, usually from the Bride and Groom although it can be from their parents to let guests know to keep their date free. This can be sent out as soon as you have the venue confirmed and are particularly useful if you are getting married abroad.



Information Card

Wedding Information Card

Information cards are a useful way to provide your guests with any information not included on your invitations. We have tried to put together an exhaustive list below so just choose the bits that are relevant for your wedding.



Venue and Directions

It is a good idea to provide the contact details for your ceremony and reception venue in case guests want to contact them directly. It is also a good idea to include directions and map of your venues, it is particularly helpful to include directions between your ceremony venue and reception venue if this is relevant. If there are any parking restrictions it would be a good idea to mention it here.

Transport

If you are providing any transport on the day it would be a good idea to mention it here. If you need numbers in advance make sure you request that information here (or add it on your RSVP card).

If you are not providing transport on the day it is useful to include details of public transport. Local taxi numbers are particularly useful as well as an indication of what time the party will end so guests can arrange this in advance.

Accommodation

This can be a list of local hotels and B&B's details and/or details of any special rates you have negotiated with your venue.

Gifts

Couples often find it particularly difficult to word their request for gifts and so we have listed a couple of different suggestions below:

Please do not feel obliged to buy us a gift, your presence on our wedding day is the most important gift that you could give us. However, for those of you who would like to buy us a gift, we have a wedding list at (name of list and details of how to buy).

Please do not feel obliged to buy us a gift, your presence on our wedding day is the most important gift that you could give us. However, if you would like to buy us something we would be most grateful to receive (name of shop) vouchers or a contribution towards (details eg, our honeymoon or appliances for our new home).

What really matters to us is having you there on our big day. However if you do want to buy us a gift we have a wedding list at (name of list and details of how to buy).

Please do not buy us a gift, we would prefer a donation to (name or charity or organistation and details of how to donate).

Children

If you are unable to accommodate or would prefer children not to attend it is a good idea to mention it here. We have listed some suggested wording below to help you with this:

We regret that we are unable to accommodate children at our wedding. We are sorry for any inconvenience this may cause you.

Unfortunately, due to venue restrictions we are unable to invite children.

Similarly if you are inviting children to the wedding it is also a good idea to clarify it here.

Children and babies are more than welcome at our wedding. Please let us know in advance if you will be bringing your children.

It may also be useful to mention if there are any babysitting facilities available and to let parents know whether they should supply booster seats, highchairs, travel cots etc.

Dress Code

Guests like to have a guide on the appropriate attire and so if this is important make sure it is indicated here. Popular dress codes include:

Black tie (tuxedos for men and glam smart dress for ladies)
Formal dress (Smart suit and long or cocktail dress for ladies)
Smart casual (shirt and ties for men but not necessarily a jacket, smart skirt trousers or dress for ladies)

Further Celebrations

If you are organising a weekend of celebrations, this is a great way of letting guests know so they can plan their weekend. Invite guests to a brunch / lunch / BBQ on the day after the wedding making sure you include a start time and location details.

Please contact the vicar for order of service wording and caterers for menu wording. If we haven't managed to answer your question please do send us an email and we will try and help.